Hell ..this is hard ..

[The Hodge]

Todays the day when my son leaves home to go to Uni ..he is only going 40 miles down the road and is within easy access of home ..but is staying in digs..
Why is it then that Im sitting up at 2.00am , drinking coffee and scouring this forum for something to read with a heavy heart and tears streaming down my face ..
Im proud of what he has achieved to get there..and as with any teenage boy..socialising with his mates & his Playstation have long held priority over his parents ( or it seems that way ) ..but boy Im going to miss him ...?

 

[billwarwick]

Well, I read the title and thought I was on the wrong forum. Either that, or it was a post from Bambam.

 

[VWsurfbum]

Todays the day when my son leaves home to go to Uni ..he is only going 40 miles down the road and is within easy access of home ..but is staying in digs..
Why is it then that Im sitting up at 2.00am , drinking coffee and scouring this forum for something to read with a heavy heart and tears streaming down my face ..
Im proud of what he has achieved to get there..and as with any teenage boy..socialising with his mates & his Playstation have long held priority over his parents ( or it seems that way ) ..but boy Im going to miss him ...?

Well it gives you a new route to ride out over to see him. Does he have decent riding near by?

 

[Zaskar20]

My Son is just about to start his second year and in his own words is "having the time of my life"

Hopefully after the initial few weeks of settling in, making new friends etc. your son will be in a similar position.

 

[The Hodge]

Well it gives you a new route to ride out over to see him. Does he have decent riding near by?

Not really ..the decent riding is where we live ..
He's a country boy going to live in the big bad city ( Newcastle -upon -Tyne ) ..and I know he's going to love it ?

 

[Tonybro]

40 miles is nothing, I went to Uni 350 miles from home!!That was a hell of a drive in the early 1980s...

You will adjust and it is hard but they need to 'grow' into themselves. Hard as a parent, I know...

 

[RickBullotta]

Todays the day when my son leaves home to go to Uni ..he is only going 40 miles down the road and is within easy access of home ..but is staying in digs..
Why is it then that Im sitting up at 2.00am , drinking coffee and scouring this forum for something to read with a heavy heart and tears streaming down my face ..
Im proud of what he has achieved to get there..and as with any teenage boy..socialising with his mates & his Playstation have long held priority over his parents ( or it seems that way ) ..but boy Im going to miss him ...?

Pro tip: make absolutely, positively certain that he leaves the Playstation at home.

 

[The Hodge]

Pro tip: make absolutely, positively certain that he leaves the Playstation at home.

Too late ..its in the car as we speak ..but dont worry if there is a party ..he will be there..

 

[steve_sordy]

Just think how much harder it was when my first daughter went to Uni. In addition to all the concerns about a lad being away from home, there are the extra concerns because my firstborn was a female. And why do they need so much stuff! First year was bad enough, the car was completely full. Second year required two cars. By the time we took her to her digs for the start of her fourth year, I had to hire a Hi-top Luton van to take her! I ended up having to take her front door off its hinges in order to get in the four-seater settee that she was taking with her!!! I even had to leave her bike behind because there was no room in the van! That had to go out on another visit.

I have two daughters and they were both at Uni at the same time for two years. Thankfully, two different Universities with different start and finish dates. A total of five years with at least one daughter at Uni.

What I clearly remember is the house filling with activity when they came home at term's end. Lights on and windows open all the time, the sound of hair driers blasting away, the phone ringing constantly, front door bell going when a hulking youth would turn up "Hello Mr Sordy, I'm Matt/John/whoever, I'm here to collect Sarah/Emma for the evening." We ended up being glad when they went back, just for the peace and quiet.

Oh and by they way, they come back! Happily for us, Mum & Dad's place is always "home".

 

[sunstoner]

Just think how much harder it was when my first daughter went to Uni. In addition to all the concerns about a lad being away from home, there are the extra concerns because my firstborn was a female. And why do they need so much stuff! First year was bad enough, the car was completely full. Second year required two cars. By the time we took her to her digs for the start of her fourth year, I had to hire a Hi-top Luton van to take her! I ended up having to take her front door off its hinges in order to get in the four-seater settee that she was taking with her!!! I even had to leave her bike behind because there was no room in the van! That had to go out on another visit.

I have two daughters and they were both at Uni at the same time for two years. Thankfully, two different Universities with different start and finish dates. A total of five years with at least one daughter at Uni.

What I clearly remember is the house filling with activity when they came home at term's end. Lights on and windows open all the time, the sound of hair driers blasting away, the phone ringing constantly, front door bell going when a hulking youth would turn up "Hello Mr Sordy, I'm Matt/John/whoever, I'm here to collect Sarah/Emma for the evening." We ended up being glad when they went back, just for the peace and quiet.

Oh and by they way, they come back! Happily for us, Mum & Dad's place is always "home".

With my 2 girls 10 and 12, I've just glimpsed at my future!

 

[Gary]

TikTok - Make Your Day

 

[The Hodge]

Yeah cheers Gary ..at 2.00am in the morning he was sleeping off his hangover so wasnt aware ?

 

[highpeakrider]

Mine left for uni and never came home.
Now a senior lecturer and loving his job but 120 miles away............

 

[steve_sordy]

With my 2 girls 10 and 12, I've just glimpsed at my future!

Start saving NOW!

 

[steve_sordy]

TikTok - Make Your Day

I'm not on TikTok Gary, was that a link to a thread or an invitation to sign up?

 

[apac]

Personally, I prefer to abandon family way before they’re anywhere near that age. Saves me from posting shit like this.

Wo! That's harsh ?

 

[dobbyhasfriends]

Todays the day when my son leaves home to go to Uni ..he is only going 40 miles down the road and is within easy access of home ..but is staying in digs..
Why is it then that Im sitting up at 2.00am , drinking coffee and scouring this forum for something to read with a heavy heart and tears streaming down my face ..
Im proud of what he has achieved to get there..and as with any teenage boy..socialising with his mates & his Playstation have long held priority over his parents ( or it seems that way ) ..but boy Im going to miss him ...?

I was in your position this time last year, now I dont bother contacting him for weeks and weeks at a time
don't worry mate, it will pass and then youll find you have more time on your hands to ride

in all seriousness, they have to make their way in the world and it leaves you feeling like you're not sure of your purpose anymore.. it will pass.

 

[mak]

My lads 20. We cant wait till he leaves home .

 

[steve_sordy]

A friend of mine left home to go to Uni. He took a single rucksack with him and never went back, not ever. When he eventually married and had kids and thought his parents might want to see their grandkids, he discovered that his parents had moved house. When he found them, they had downsized so that "there was no room for him to visit with an overnighter". They lived in North Scotland he lived near Portsmouth.

Sadly (it seems to me) not everyone gets on with their family.

 

[sunstoner]

Todays the day when my son leaves home to go to Uni ..he is only going 40 miles down the road and is within easy access of home ..but is staying in digs..
Why is it then that Im sitting up at 2.00am , drinking coffee and scouring this forum for something to read with a heavy heart and tears streaming down my face ..
Im proud of what he has achieved to get there..and as with any teenage boy..socialising with his mates & his Playstation have long held priority over his parents ( or it seems that way ) ..but boy Im going to miss him ...?

Oh man. Im not looking forward to this........oh wait, no, I am looking forward to this and massively cant wait until it actually happens!!

Hang in there chap!!

 

[sunstoner]

A friend of mine left home to go to Uni. He took a single rucksack with him and never went back, not ever. When he eventually married and had kids and thought his parents might want to see their grandkids, he discovered that his parents had moved house. When he found them, they had downsized so that "there was no room for him to visit with an overnighter". They lived in North Scotland he lived near Portsmouth.

Sadly (it seems to me) not everyone gets on with their family.

Wow, its amazing the roads we take in life often to find them oneway only.

 

[sunstoner]

Start saving NOW!

The swear jar really isnt gonna cover this is it?

 

[flash]

My daughter left for a six month trip this year and was back in two weeks thanks to COVID. I’d already converted her room and then had to change it back……..

She’s off to Uni in another state next year. 900kms away. It’ll take a truck to carry all her shoes. We’re super close but I don’t do the sad parent thing. It’s not in my nature. Or hers, for that matter. I raised her to be a strong independent human. And now I have another excuse to travel to Queensland….

My 17 yo son looks like he may never leave………

Gordon

 

[Hobo Mikey]

Just tel, yourself it could have been worse Hodge………………..if you had a daughter.

 

[The Hodge]

Oh ..but I have ..from a " previous " ..she is now 30 !?
Edit : It was worse but for entirely different reasons ..its all worked out ok though ..she is a former model & has a succesful small business and we keep in touch regularly ?

 

[R120]

Newcastle is a great town for student life, spent many a blurry weekend there visiting mates - I wonder if they still have that night-club on a boat with the revolving dance floor . .

 

[The Hodge]

The Tuxedo Princess..long gone ...
Newcastle is our closest city and where I spent my " youth " ..its changed a lot in the last decade ..never mind how many years its been since you visited ..
It is though a great " party " town ..and my lad is already very familiar with it ..